What is Bullying?
Bullying is the repetitive, intentional hurting of one person or group by another person or group, where the relationship involves an imbalance of power. It can happen face to face or online.
There are four key elements to this definition:
- power imbalance
Bullying behaviour can be:
- Physical – pushing, poking, kicking, hitting, biting, pinching etc.
- Verbal – name calling, sarcasm, spreading rumours, threats, teasing, belittling.
- Emotional – isolating others, tormenting, hiding books, threatening gestures, ridicule, humiliation, intimidating, excluding, manipulation and coercion.
- Sexual – unwanted physical contact, inappropriate touching, abusive comments, homophobic abuse, exposure to inappropriate films etc.
- Online | cyber – posting on social media, sharing photos, sending nasty text messages, social exclusion
- Indirect – Can include the exploitation of individuals
Information on Defining and Identifying Bullying
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What is NOT Bullying
- Conflicts amongst friends
- Differences of opinions
- Change in peer groups, maturity, interests, social interests.
Conflict is a part of life, it occurs in families, friendships, school, work, and in our society in general.
Adolescence is the phase of life between childhood and adulthood, from ages 10 to 19. It is a unique stage of human development.
Friendships are incredibly important during adolescence. Teen friendships help young people feel a sense of acceptance and belonging. They support the development of compassion, caring, and empathy, and they are a big part of forming a sense of identity outside the family. Moreover, adolescent friendships can be incredibly supportive in helping teens to weather difficult times.
However, part of this phase will bring conflict amongst peers, fallout, arguments and disagreements. Some friends will drift apart whilst others will become stronger.
Conflicts can be seen by parents as bullying – but this is part of growing up. Encouraging good conflict resolution skills to young people will have a beneficial impact.
The skills can help your child to establish healthy relationships, prevent youth violence, set them up for good employment opportunities, and generally be more successful in life.
Teaching conflict resolution skills to youth
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A guide to supporting young people with their friendships
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How can I help my child if they are being bullied?
If your child is being bullied, don’t panic. Your key role is listening, calming and providing reassurance that the situation can get better when action is taken.
- Listen and reassure them that coming to you was the right thing to do. Try and establish the facts. It can be helpful to keep a diary of events to share with the school or college.
- Assure them that the bullying is not their fault and that they have family that will support them. Reassure them that you will not take any action without discussing it with them first.
- Don’t encourage retaliation to bullying – such as violent actions. It’s important for children to avoid hitting or punching an abusive peer. Reacting that way has negative and unpredictable results- they may be hurt even further, and find that they are labelled as the problem. Rather suggest that they walk away and seek help.
- Find out what your child wants to happen next. Help to identify the choices open to them; the potential next steps to take; and the skills they may have to help solve the problems.
- Encourage your child to get involved in activities that build their confidence and esteem, and help them to form friendships outside of school (or wherever the bullying is taking place).
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‘Stop The Bully’
Temple Moor High School takes bullying very seriously and understands the effects that bullying can have on an individual’s education, self-esteem and confidence. This is why we work together to create awareness on how to prevent bullying and encourage students to speak out.
Not only do we work together to build resilience and self-confidence with the victim of bullying. We teach tolerance, kindness and acceptance and encourage students to speak out about their thoughts, fears and insecurities so that they do not turn to bullying.
Temple Moor is a very diverse school and we want to embrace differences and strive to make sure all students enjoy their time at Temple Moor and leave us as considerate, well-qualified, confident young people.
Temple Moor High School works together to do everything it can to prevent all kinds of bullying.
Assemblies to raise awareness
Trained peer mentors with listening skills who support students around school
Connections with professional mentors, who support students affected by bullying
Offering appropriate support and guidance for bullies
Please visit our Links page where you will find lots of websites for further guidance and support.
Knowing or suspecting that your child is being bullied can be very distressing, but there is lots that you can do to help.
How do you know if your child is being bullied?
Coming home without money they should have, or with scratches and bruises.
Having trouble with homework for no apparent reason.
Using a different route between home and school.
Feeling irritable, easily upset or particularly emotional.
How can you help your child if they are being bullied?
Listen to your child, let them tell their story in their own words.
Suggest your child keeps a diary of bullying incidents. This will help show us concrete facts.
The next step is to speak to us.
Use this email address to contact someone in school about bullying:
Please see the links below where you will find websites which provide further guidance and support.
Tackling homophobic, biphobic and transphobic bullying: improving preventative practices and support for LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender) pupils.
Barnados: Everyone should be free to be themselves
Barnados support LGBTQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans and those questioning their sexual or gender identity) children, young people and their families in the UK. Check our their website here to find out more.